Words are the means by which we deliver our thoughts, intent and emotions to those around us. Honoring your wife (God’s daughter) with your words is a skill that must be mastered in order to truly become the man God wants His daughter to have.
Your words are simply containers. They contain thoughts and ideas that are both positive and negative. The contents of your container (your thoughts, intent and emotions) can become damaged and/or broken by how rough you handle the container when you deliver it.
Several times I have purchased items online only to find that my item was broken or damaged when I received it. How I wish that those who were charged with the handling of my package had taken the time to handle it with the same care they would expect when someone was handling something that was important to them.
If you want your wife to trust you emotionally, you are going to have to become proficient at the delivery of your thoughts through your words.
Men, realize that it’s not what you say to your wife it’s how you say it that matters most. The way your words are delivered can make all the difference in the world to how your wife receives what you have to say. The impact of your words on someone’s heart can carry healing properties or they can be destructive, the effects of which can last for years.
If you want to develop into a husband that your wife can talk to about her innermost feelings, you’re going to have to become skillful at the art of using your words, in conjunction with your expressions and body language to convey your thoughts and emotions to her in a way that she can understand you.
Did you know that the ultimate sign of trust in an animal is to lie on its back and expose their most vulnerable side to you? What the animal is saying is that I trust that you won’t hurt me; therefore I can afford to expose my most vulnerable side to you.
Delivering Your Words Properly
If you want your wife to show you that same kind of trust emotionally, you are going to have to become proficient at the delivery of your thoughts through your words. It’s not enough for you to deliver your thoughts to her in the same way that you would want them delivered to you. The statement “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” definitely DOES NOT apply when it comes to conveying your thoughts to your wife.
I’m a pretty blunt, straight forward person. I don’t like “sugar coating” the truth. However, I’ve learned that just because I prefer to receiving truth in this way, doesn’t mean that my wife receives truth in the same way.
It would be disastrous if I attempted to deliver my thoughts, feelings and emotions to her in the same way I would prefer to receive from her.
You will need to take the time to study your wife and discover the delivery system that works best for her and then become proficient at delivering your thoughts by your words. The art of becoming a good delivery person takes time to learn and is different for each man.
If you want to be a GREAT husband, take the time to develop your skills. The skill of becoming a good delivery person is paramount to you becoming the husband of her dreams.