Spending time with family must be a top priority if we intend to build healthy relationships within the home. God has blessed me with the ideal situation. I’m privileged to be able to work from home and structure my day as I like.
I’ve recently discovered that this “blessing” can also be a curse if left un-checked. I am a workaholic for two reasons. Firstly, I love what I do and secondly, because I know that if I don’t work, we won’t eat so there is a little self-induced pressure that goes along with owning a small business.
Two days ago my wife had had enough. She pulled me aside and told me that she missed spending time with me. Totally oblivious to what she was talking about, I asked how that could be possible, since I’m home all the time. True enough, I am home a lot but just because I was at home physically didn’t mean that I was home emotionally or intellectually.
This morning the wife and I got up and went to IHOP for breakfast. During breakfast she thanked me for spending time with her and the boys during the evening hours in a way that really let me know how much it meant to her.
As men, we sometimes feel that being a hard worker or “bringing home the bacon” is proof positive and tangible evidence of the love we have for our families. Not so. I thought I had learned this lesson but my wife gave me a refresher course and reminded me that she needed her time with me as well as my mistress does (she affectionately calls my job my mistress because I love it so much). So, we sat down and hammered out a new work schedule for me. One that we both could agree on.
Yesterday was my first day on the new schedule, and the first day of me giving myself back to my family in the evening hours. On the surface, everything seemed normal. We had dinner together, we watched a little TV together, and the boys argued with one another as usual.
Spending time with family…worth more than a few extra dollars
This morning the wife and I got up and went to IHOP for breakfast. During breakfast she thanked me for spending time with her and the boys during the evening hours in a way that really let me know how much it meant to her. I can’t believe I let making a few extra dollars sever the emotional tie between myself and my family.
Men, stay conscious of your families’ needs. In spending time with them, you don’t have to spend an exorbitant amount of money or have some superbly planned meal in store for them. They simply need you to be completely available to them. A truly loving family would rather have you than your money.