Sex, Lust and Physical Beauty – Knowing the Difference. Part 3: Physical Beauty


Sex, lust and the admiration of physical beauty aimed at the opposite sex are things that some Christians have trouble separating. Today, in this third installment of the trilogy. I’d like to focus on Physical Beauty.

God made the sexes to appeal to one another. It’s absolutely normal for someone who is physically attractive to catch your eye. Contrary to what Hollywood may portray on the big screen, elderly men and women see beauty in the opposite sex and don’t lose their physical attraction for one another as they age.

My dad had an eye for physically beautiful women well into his 80’s. With that being said, I feel we need to define what physical beauty is. The media would have us believe that the standard of beauty is the winner of the Miss Universe contest or the model on the cover of GQ magazine. Nothing could be farther from the truth.

Physical beauty is any visual quality that you find attractive in the opposite sex. Physical beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. Thank God, because I could never live up to the standard of the male model on the cover of GQ and I’m glad that I don’t have too. God has made each of us with specific tastes when it comes to what appeals to us in the opposite sex.

Physical beauty is any visual quality that you find attractive in the opposite sex. Physical beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.

Some like tall, some like short, some like heavy, and some like skinny. Some like blonde, some like brunette, or redheads. God even built into us quirky likes and dislikes that can be quite rare. These idiosyncrasies can be as detailed as finding manicured nails, a certain type of style of dress, length of one’s hair or even the tone of someone’s voice appealing. Given the different looks and races of people all over the world, no matter what you look like there is someone out there who you will appeal to you and vice versa.

And to sweeten the pot, God created us to be drawn to one another simply by associating with the opposite sex over extended periods of time. Maybe you’ve experienced a situation where you were forced to spend time with someone of the opposite sex through a classroom or work environment.

At first, the person may not have caught your eye. In fact, at first sight this may not have been someone who would have appealed to you at all. But as time went by and you began to interact with the person and spent time getting to know them, emotions began to bubble to the surface and they became physically beautiful to you.

Personally, I’ve never met a woman who didn’t appeal to me in some way. I think all women are beautiful in their own way. Some could use a bit more work to enhance their physical beauty than others, but all have the building blocks to become even more beautiful than they already are. I think members of the opposite sex should be admired and complemented (at the appropriate time and in the appropriate manner) if you find them to be beautiful inside, outside or both.

When attraction to the opposite sex crosses the line

As I stated in the last article, the problem comes when you don’t recognize that your admiration of physical beauty in someone has crossed the line and become lust. Once again, it’s our responsibility to be aware of our emotions and take control of them if they start to venture into an area that violates God’s Word where lust is concerned.

I thank you for taking the time to journey through this series with me. My prayer is that it has been enlightening and that God has been able to shed some light on this topic that can be taken and applied personally in your life.

God bless…

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  1. Completely agree. We have to know the difference for ourselves because the battle is always in the mind. But as a Believer, you are transformed by the renewing of your mind. (Romans 12:2)

    I had a friend who was always lusting. He wasn't a Christian to begin with but he claimed he was since his grandmother was. Anyway, he loved mind-stripping girls he was attracted to and then narrating it to me. I tried to tell him it was pointless and even suggested going over and actually getting to know them. Finally he gets a girlfriend, "goes in unto her" as the Bible would say and was completely disappointed – as I knew he would be. Why? No love. Just sex. Now he admits it was all a waste. Now God has him right where he wants him: a place of repentance. And now it's a joy to watch him grow in wisdom.

    As a Christian, the Holy Spirit will show you the deception of any temptation and you'll be victorious day after day.

  2. Cindy Livingstone Ministries

    Excellent article…you have a very good grasp on this topic. Thank you for sharing. God Bless♥

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