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Parenting the Strong Willed Child – FaithsMessenger.Com

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Parenting can be one of the most rewarding and one of the most stressful jobs that a parent can undertake. Kids today are extremely smart. In fact, I think we have a pair of the smartest kids ever born.

I don’t remember a time when they didn’t have an answer to a question. They bubble over with wisdom and knowledge. If the powers that be would simply take heed and listen to or kids, I’m sure the problems of the world would be solved.

Sometimes when parenting, we have to step back and let God be the parent. This is the case more so with older children than with the younger ones. Our children belong to God anyway. He’s just given us the privilege of being temporary caretakers of them.

With all the knowledge our kids have, there is a simple two letter word they have yet to learn. I think they may have been sick and absent from school on the day the teacher taught the two letter response that most parents worldwide have been deprived of hearing for so long.

The word they missed out on learning is “ok”. Life in every home would run so much smoother if our children would learn that simple two letter word and respond with it when told to do something around the house.

In our household, instead of using this mystical two letter word, their mom and I have to explain, and reason, and negotiate, and punish, and place on restriction, and use other motivators to get them to do what needs to be done around the house.

I think every parent longs for a child that will do whatever we want, how we want it done, when we want it done. But the child that yields to this extent doesn’t exist. Even if such a child did exist, to govern them wouldn’t fall under the heading of parenting.

Parenting carries with it the notion of teaching, training, guiding, coaching, and showing the way. All of these descriptors carry with them the idea of some sort of push back by the one being taught, trained, guided and coached.

 

Parenting has the benefit of the child at heart

What our children don’t seem to realize is that everything we tell them to do is for their benefit. There are rare cases that we hear about every once in a while where parents deliberately attempt to harm their children, but thank God those cases are few and far between.

No sane parent wants to deliberately harm their child. We want the best for our children. Our goal is to keep them out of harm’s way. The trick is to get them to take the leap of faith and trust us. By doing so, saying the magic word “ok” wouldn’t be such a problem for them.

Sometimes when parenting, we have to step back and let God be the parent. This is the case more so with older children than with the younger ones. Our children belong to God anyway. He’s just given us the privilege of being temporary caretakers of them.

As parent’s we want to give our children the ideal childhood, but none of us know what the ideal childhood is. We want our children to have better than what we had and avoid the potholes in life that tripped us up.

But with the things we did as teens and the mistakes we made along the way, even though we may have made some choices that weren’t the best, we survived. God protected us in spite of the decisions we made and brought us to this point in life.

Some of the things we went through built character in us that would be lacking had we not experienced some of the things we experienced. So why wouldn’t we want our children to be developed as we were along our journey?

There is no ideal childhood. Only God knows what each of our children needs to go through in order to become the men and women He has predetermined them to become.

A little parental encouragement

As a parent, I encourage you to trust God with your child. He knows our children better than we will ever know them. Continue to be the best parent to them that you can be, but allow some room in the parenting chair for God to help mold and shape them through their choices and experiences in ways that we can’t.

Trust God for the salvation, safety, protection and security of your child in every way and know that the love He has for our children can never be matched by the love that we have for them.

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